Micro-real life-practice
I’ve been writing this blog for three years. Sometimes I don’t have a clue what my next blog will be about, so a loop of uncertainty begins and feeds itself. This is a familiar moment where uncomfortable feelings are present, and I want relief—I want the feelings to go away.
But it builds in stages:
- Uncertainty emerges, and I seek control.
- Tension rises in my body.
- My mind tries to resolve the problem quickly—to make it go away.
- When I can’t, pressure builds and self-judgment follows.
- I avoid and delay. Why can’t I write?
Eventually, I force myself to sit down and write—while all of this is still running in the background.
And it doesn’t work. So I look deeper.
It is not that I don’t know how to write—it is that I don’t like my relationship with the present moment when it doesn’t feel good. I fight the feelings that arise. I want them to go away so I can write in peace, clarity, and inspiration.
But that is not coherence, and that is not how the Six Heart Virtues work, which are the subject of this blog. It is a constriction—a wall—and I view it as a problem I need to fix or eliminate.
It is an old pattern that implies I need to control what the present moment brings (inner and outer) so that I can write at my best.
But what if I view a feeling as information, and welcome it as a signal from the field?
If so, what is the message?
In this case, the language of the message is feelings (perpetuated by thought) reminding me that I am out of alignment—I am fighting what is.
As I notice this and ask a simple question—What is happening inside me now?—it becomes obvious. I am aware of doubt, fear, tension, unworthiness, and uncertainty gripping me.
I see what is happening (coherence begins to rise), but how do I shift from contraction to being with what is arising without resistance?
The answer is already emerging within the question.
A subtle truth is revealed in looking inside: writing is not the issue. The real question is, how can I stay in relationship with the present moment, no matter what is happening internally or externally?
My focus is misplaced. I need a reset.
Let’s walk through the When–Which–How method:
When:
It’s not when I am about to start writing.
It’s when uncertainty and tension first appear—the signal arrives.
Which:
What quality wants to come forward in this moment?
- Compassion → for the part of me that feels pressure
- Humility → “I don’t know what will come today,” and that’s okay
- Understanding → recognizing the pattern
- Valor → staying with it instead of escaping
It can be one or a combination.
What speaks to me? What opens a door?
How:
Not by fixing the feeling. I allow the virtues to reshape how I meet the present moment.
I sit, and I write. Uncertainty and tension can stay, but not in the driver’s seat.
Something opens—and I write from there.
Through this practice, I move from:
“I need clarity before I write.”
to:
“Clarity flows through me as I stay present while holding uncertainty.”
I have shifted my relationship with the present moment. I stop fighting what is. Allowance becomes my strength.
My writing becomes a living expression of coherence in motion.
Next time, I won’t ask, What should I write about this week?
I will ask and listen: What is the field showing me now?
In this case, it was uncertainty, hesitation, pressure, and self-judgment—once seen as problems to fix. But a simple shift changed everything.
The problem became a signal—information—reminding me to return to coherence, allowing creative flow to move freely through me.
It is no coincidence that this arose. It shows how practicing the Six Heart Virtues and the When–Which–How method can reset my life at any time, anywhere, and while doing anything.
The present moment—just as it is—is not in the way.
It is the way.
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